tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post267559956097595030..comments2023-10-10T21:06:42.855+10:00Comments on Accidental Wonderland: Bad MotherAmeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06277489399865186227noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-239092756552388432011-09-30T13:02:58.412+10:002011-09-30T13:02:58.412+10:00Omg this is like a list of stuff I think off too. ...Omg this is like a list of stuff I think off too. It's all normal, so normal :) Don't think you're a bad mother, we all have these moments. God you should see what's in my head too!!MummyKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04910641071937664647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-87156383423351206472011-09-30T11:54:04.845+10:002011-09-30T11:54:04.845+10:00Thank you all so much for your comments. I really ...Thank you all so much for your comments. I really appreciate it! <br /><br />I've actually printed them out and have them on my noticeboard for when I feel like a bad mum so thank you so much.<br />xxxAmeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06277489399865186227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-65920366959170684282011-09-30T00:56:25.686+10:002011-09-30T00:56:25.686+10:00You mention getting bored, procrastinating, and mu...You mention getting bored, procrastinating, and multitasking on stuff when you should be focusing on Lufflump 100 percent of the time. I don't see it necessarily being the same as those jobs you hated. The fact is, mothers are on call 24/7 and we are not just looking after the needs of our little ones but also trying to run a household to support those needs and that of our family. Twenty. Four. Seven. Even with the jobs you hated, you went home at the end of the day to something else; you had a break, refreshed, had fun your way. I think sometimes the intense negative emotions we can feel as mothers are because we are strung out and tired, and depleting ourselves in meeting others' needs first and not necessarily because we hate being mothers or parenting. It's just hard doing the same type of thing all the time. You wouldn't eat your favourite food day in day out for every meal for weeks on end. It would get monotonous, you'd probably start to hate it,etc. <br /><br />Having said that, I do worry about whether I'm giving my littlies, especially my toddler, all she needs but all I can do is keep trying to do a few new or extra things and see if it helps. I like Lou Lou's reply. At the end of the day, they just need and want us, our time and love.Veronica @ Mixed Gemshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012569571281223678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-71108597947999238062011-09-29T21:47:50.171+10:002011-09-29T21:47:50.171+10:00A special lady once told me if you are worried ab...A special lady once told me if you are worried about being a bad parent then you aren't a bad parent. Take it one day at a time, I find if I schedule at least one activity a day even a small one I feel better. And really once he is a bit bigger he will tell you when he wants/needs more mummy time xxKate (Suddenly Seven)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04472720952938332243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-16558073626105711752011-09-29T18:01:33.755+10:002011-09-29T18:01:33.755+10:00i just wanna hug you and your gorgeous belly.
Its...i just wanna hug you and your gorgeous belly.<br /><br />Its nice to know that Im not the only one who feels they've done their child/ren wrong. <br /><br />xxxMichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05981117195910291360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-79054757697088144182011-09-29T13:10:06.729+10:002011-09-29T13:10:06.729+10:00I've read 3 of these posts this week and, alth...I've read 3 of these posts this week and, although i do get the occasional bout of mother guilt myself, i think you're all being way harsh on yourselves. <br />Every child, every mother, every parent is different. I dont like parenting books by so-called " experts " because ... there is NO SUCH THING. And i firmly believe all those books and all these conflicting studies that are publish only serve to make us feel inadequate.<br />For eg - at Flynns 18 mth check, i was told his speech was advanced. He's 21 mths now and already speaks in 4 and 5 word sentences regularly, knows a few colours, and has a few of his favourite books memorised. And you know what? We watch tv all.day.long. ABC2 is on at our house from 6am when we get up, until dinner time. <br />My point is all these studies say tv is the devil, that tv promotes slowed development blah blah blah. So should i still be worried that he watches too much tv? Nup, he's doing ok as he is....<br />I'm sure you just keep going along with Lufflump just the way you have been and he'll come along in his own time - tv, no tv, super attentive cuddles or the occasional " Mummy is on the computer! "... he'll work himself out in his own time.Amy xxoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12829443038522374160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-11730818155086651872011-09-29T10:03:43.894+10:002011-09-29T10:03:43.894+10:00Is he alive at the end of each day?
Then you'v...Is he alive at the end of each day?<br />Then you've done enough.<br /><br />It really is that simple. I know it never feels like it is enough, but it is. <br />As for his talking, that is something I can hopefully make you feel better about. Bluey was a late talker, but when he did start to talk it just took off. He is now a very bright 5 year old. ZERO speech problems I can assure you. <br />I guess speech can be a bit like walking or crawling. You start to worry that they're "never" going to do it, and after lots of time worrying suddenly they are doing it like they have been for years. <br />If there were concerns for his speech the daycare would let you know, I promise. <br /><br />Like I said to Holly I think it's something EVERY parent feels, that they're not doing enough for their child/ren. Ask someone close to you who gets to see how you interact with Lufflump and take their opinion as fact. <br />And you know what? Worrying that you're not doing enough, that's a sign in itself that you're a good parent!Miss Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04339773113889860348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-32879995426916184612011-09-29T09:48:00.666+10:002011-09-29T09:48:00.666+10:00As long as he is happy and healthy your doing a go...As long as he is happy and healthy your doing a good job. We arnt super mothers, and just getting through everyday should be seen as a success. <br /><br />All households have there down falls, too much tv etc, but i think if the child is bored and wants to learn they will give you the cues.<br />BYron is a tv addict but somehow he has come out way smarter than me and he's only 4.<br /><br />As for speech, kids are all different. They say you shouldnt worry until after 3 years anyways. <br /><br />Just keep doing what you are doing. He will be fine.Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12164329423881113248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-89483655419272400072011-09-29T08:10:59.563+10:002011-09-29T08:10:59.563+10:00I could have written this word for word. Especiall...I could have written this word for word. Especially the talking stuff. A little girl at church this week, younger than my son, picked up a pencil and said 'Purple Pencil'. I almost fell over, my son doesn't know colours, but hey, he can name all the cars from the Cars movie. Whoops. <br /><br />We'll just have to send our boys to the same school so they grow up thinking inadequate parenting is perfectly normal- lol.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648204470712239011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-14930793362197614292011-09-29T08:03:35.465+10:002011-09-29T08:03:35.465+10:00Tutu
all children want it their loving guardian o...Tutu<br /><br />all children want it their loving guardian or parent to give them love, affection and time - nothing more (oh food and water too sorry)<br /><br />children can happily play with mud and stones and have a great time.<br />Put on music and that I feel is one of the greatest therapies.<br /><br />think of the tribal people living right this very day - - no toys, gimmicks, electricity, just people loving them!<br />think of children from birth going to work with their mothers in the baskets on their mothers backs in a rice paddy - they all survive and thrive.<br /><br />Guilt of a mother is something we will have forever - sometimes they are wake up calls for us and messages for us to get! Sometimes they are a 6th sense talking to us.<br />Sometimes they are rot!<br />but I know as a mother - we will NEVER lose mothers guilt.<br /><br /><br />He is young enough now to make new habits and break old - they are very pliable at this age.<br /><br />Forget the daycare more days - he wants you - I followed my mother around for years and had no toys as a child (I mean that) but if I was just helping and doing I was the happiest child in the world.<br /><br />you are wonderful and you have another coming soon - please remember we don't know all the answers - we are creating a lot of answers as we go along.<br /><br />x<br /><br /><a href="http://hereiamloulou.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Loulou</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08155628540029227995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-78220230054827304762011-09-29T07:39:18.849+10:002011-09-29T07:39:18.849+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.~stinkb0mb~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13933191141338188027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521948518439771988.post-17709117096011704132011-09-29T07:38:01.482+10:002011-09-29T07:38:01.482+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.~stinkb0mb~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13933191141338188027noreply@blogger.com